The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. John 10:10
Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:33
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3
The enemy is not your spouse. This lie becomes easy to believe when we are tired, communication is difficult or inconsistent, and we just generally miss each other. Somehow we get an intrusive thought telling us to blame our spouse for fill-in-the-blank: not feeling appreciated, not speaking your love language, seeming too okay without you… You’re on the same team and you’re teammate wouldn’t intentionally do any of that.
The Bible has the answer. “Do not deprive each other.” Hmmm, it’s talking about sex though? Maybe, but there are many ways that we can deprive each other. Simple, I love you‘s and thank you‘s are a start. With a little bit of humility and gentleness, name the lie with your spouse. Don’t let Satan get a foothold. Be gentle with each other. Patient when the other seems to irritated. Bearing when you make mistakes. It’s not easy so don’t forget to turn to the Father.
Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for teaching us how to love each other. I pray that you help us be humble, gentle, patient, and bearing with each other during this time we are apart. Please strengthen our communication so that we can be clear with our needs as well as our appreciation for each other. Most of all, I pray for spiritual protection over our marriage and our hearts. No one knows our hearts like you and I pray you settle insecurities and build our certainty in YOU so we can have it in each other. In Jesus’s name, AMEN.